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BWWOB: “Sisters, stop giving dysfunctional skin folks passes!! Vet (screen) ALL MEN THE SAME! Don’t allow BM to ‘B’ you! And simply say THANK YOU when an Other Brother gives you a compliment. Follow the logic. WHY does Black America want BW socialized in such a crazy fashion? Who benefits? 
I think you know the answer…”

BWWOB: “Sisters, stop giving dysfunctional skin folks passes!! Vet (screen) ALL MEN THE SAME! Don’t allow BM to ‘B’ you! And simply say THANK YOU when an Other Brother gives you a compliment. Follow the logic. WHY does Black America want BW socialized in such a crazy fashion? Who benefits?

I think you know the answer…”

— 1 year ago with 23 notes
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Anonymous asked: I guess the only reason I was talking to him was because he was the only guy to ever find me some what attractive


Answer:

Hi Anon!

I HIGHLY doubt he is the only guy who has ever found you attractive nor will he be the last :)

That is why I harped on having SELF-RESPECT.  Guys will show you attention but it is up to YOU to weed out the losers. The fool in question, IMO, should be kicked to the curb.

We have to get rid of the weeds in order to make room for the flowers, right?  Well if you are getting distracted with ONE loser, that leaves you no time to get active, focus on improving yourself, which would create an opportunity for you to meet that special guy.

Look, I can’t make you do anything. If you want to continue entertaining a guy who has VERY CLEARLY communicated to you that he sees you as a semen dumpster, then do you.  IF I WERE YOU, I would heed some if not all of the advice I gave you in the previous post.  Yes, i am being blunt right now. Why? Because there are TOO MANY girls who would give in to the demands of a guy like this an end up emotionally hurt, raped, abused, pregnant, or killed. I don’t take these things lightly.

You are beautiful, you are smart, you are friendly, you are inquisitiveness  and the right guy will appreciate all of the wonderful qualities you possess.  The right guy will not pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do.  You have to believe that :)

Take care sweetie. I’m here if you need me <3 xoxo

— 1 year ago with 1 note
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Anonymous asked: I've been talking to this guy for a couple of months and his been asking be to have sex with him but I always say no most of the times he seems cool with it but for some reason he changed and started saying things like I'm easy and it wasn't hard to get me I pretended that I didn't care than he said i should stop because am embarrassing myself he basically said I was pathetic!!!! Ooh and I'm 16 going to 17 advise ??


Answer:

Hello Anon!!

As you know, I don’t mince words or beat around the bush, so here are MY thoughts.

1. STOP TALKING TO HIM!!!!!!

2. Why would you continue to talk to a fool who:

a. texts you for booty calls

b. has NO interest in getting to know you

c. VERBALLY ATTACKS you for declining his advances

WHY WOULD YOU STILL STAY IN CONTACT WITH SAID FOOL???

Seriously hun, cease all communication with him.  When you have self-respect and love yourself, you NEVER let other people use and abuse you like that.

If you are serious about your self-preservation, end all communication with him…if he continues to harass you, let him know you will talk your phone to the proper authorities (school admin, the police, parents, etc)  and they can deal with him.

After you have cut off all contact with him, I would start focuing on YOURSELF and what makes you happy. Do you have a hobby? Is there an activity that you have always wanted to try?  Are you planning on going to college or community college? Have you started planning for that??  Are there any after-school clubs/orgs that you might be interested in?

The point is you should be BUSY enjoying life and doing things that make YOU happy, not spending precious time on folks who do not uplift you.

If someone of something is NOT adding value to your life…CUT THEM OUT. You come FIRST….always :)

Good Luck hun!!! Let me know if you have any other questions!! xoxo

— 1 year ago
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thelovely-ones:

Tiguida Sissoko a very beautiful African model from Mali. Photo by Mario Epanya

thelovely-ones:

Tiguida Sissoko a very beautiful African model from Mali. Photo by Mario Epanya

— 1 year ago with 181 notes
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Expect More Sophisticated Okey-Dokes to be Churned and Aimed at Black Women →

BW, I’ve been warning y’all to expect a bunch of ‘new and improved’ aka more sophisticated okey-dokes to come straight at y’all to keep as many AA women in a mammy-mule state as possible—serving the needs of the unreciprocating, plagued, barren black construct

Don’t believe the garbage that is being written by publications such as Essence aka Messence and Ebony aka Ebonics. 

PLEASE READ THIS BLOG LADIES AND SHARE IT WITH YOUR FRIENDS. IT COULD BE LIFE-SAVING FOR SOMEONE :)

— 1 year ago with 1 note
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